Nothing means more than knowing someone appreciates and values you. Being on the receiving end of a small “thank you” is so special no matter how big or small the gesture might be. This is something I want to be better at – intentionally letting those I love know how thankful I am for them. This time of year has had me brainstorming ways to make this a more regular habit of mine, and really it is quite simple. Today I wanted to share a few ideas and remind myself to think about this more.
Say it – Get in the habit of saying “I’m so thankful for you” or even better yet “I’m so thankful for the way you ____” or “I’m so thankful for ____ about you”. A few kind words can go so far. They can deepen a relationship, soften a heart, and often encourage a person in more ways than you know. Let’s not let our self consciousness of feeling silly get in the way of loving people.
Write it – Is there anyone who doesn’t love receiving a handwritten card? Especially when it comes in the mail! For me, this one is all about being prepared. I used to have great intentions of sending letters but would never follow through on it. Finally I picked up a few thank you cards, birthday cards, and pretty blank cards and put them in my top desk drawer with envelopes and a few stamps. This way everything I need is right at my finger tips and I have no excuse not to take a moment to jot some kind words down. I can stamp it and stick it in the mailbox right then!
Set Reminders – I used to feel bad/embarrassed that I do this, like if I was a good friend I should be able to remember on my own. But that is just a prideful way of looking at it because truthfully, I do need the help to remember and that is more about my brain than my ability to be a good friend. I utilize repeating events in iCal to remember birthdays and anniversaries. I look over these monthly and write a note to text, call or send a card to people on my weekly to-do lists. Then I use Siri and the Reminders app to fill in more gaps. If someone tells me they are having a hard week, having a surgery, going on a trip, etc I’ll say “Hey Siri, remind me to check on ___ in a week”.
Little Gifts – I really believe you don’t have to spend money to show someone you are thankful, but that said a little gift can be a sweet way to let someone know you were thinking of them. Trader Joes has fresh eucalyptus/flowers/ferns as well as treats and snacks (like english toffee or seasonal cookies) that are perfect for this and you can just grab them while doing your grocery shopping. I also love sending virtual Starbucks gift cards (through their website) with a note like “Coffee is on me today! Thankful for you!”. All of these ideas can be less than $5, but speak volumes.
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